We have reached an age where women have opportunities to succeed and have careers. Women are accepted at all the top educational institutions (my class in law school was 57% women). We have reached an age where marriage and procreation are not the only goals a woman can have, and she can reject them completely should she choose.
And yet, feminists get all hot and bothered because some young women in top colleges actually choose to acknowledge their maternal instinct and plan on having part-time careers, and staying home with their kids. (See here.) Quote that pissed me off:
“They are still thinking of this as a private issue; they’re accepting it,” said Laura Wexler, a professor of American studies and women’s and gender studies at Yale. “Women have been given full-time working career opportunities and encouragement with no social changes to support it.
“I really believed 25 years ago,” Dr. Wexler added, “that this would be solved by now.”
Ugh. What an idiot. Solved? As if these young women have some sort of responsibility to society to not want to be home with their children? As if these young women are wrong to want this?
Worse yet, in my opinion, is the implication that this is somehow society’s (and Men’s) fault. We’ve failed young women, clearly, because they still adhere to (classic femin-nazi phrase) “traditional gender roles.” I don’t think any of these girls envision a June Cleaver lifestyle, and want to go back to the ’50’s. What these ladies want is, Professor Wexler’s idiocy notwithstanding, a biological imperative. That the female of the human species gestates the baby is not a traditional gender role. It’s a fact of life. That most pediatricians will tell you that there are tremendous health benefits to breast-feeding for at least the first 4-6 months of life is just medical fact. That women are the ones that produce breast-milk is also just medical fact. (Don’t go telling me that men can breastfeed too. I know they can. But that’s just gross, and would require hormonal therapy to achieve the result. Not worth it.) So there’s 15 months that the women are involved that can’t change, societal pressure or not.
I don’t know if Professor Wexler has children, or if she eats children for lunch to maintain the vitality of her coven, but societal pressure or not, she can’t deny that children do better when their parents are home. Certainly, parental bonding would be beneficial with both parents. But there is something different and special about the maternal relationship. Wex can argue all she wants about equality, but she can’t change the fact that men and women are biologically different, and bring different things to the family-raising table. (Like, for instance, women bring the family.)
So quit whining, and schedule an appointment with your psychotherapist and figure out once and for all why your mother didn’t love you. And stop projecting your own crappy childhood on everyone else.